The grieving process happens gradually and is a very individualized experience. It can be extremely difficult to find your new normal after a pet has passed, and I want you to know that you are not alone in your profound grief. Feelings of sadness, guilt, loneliness and devastation can be intense for some and it is absolutely nothing to be ashamed of.

Please let yourself feel whatever you need to feel without self judgement. Reach out for help to Dr. Viano, family, friends, hotlines, blogs, religious figures, counselors, support groups etc. to help cope with your loss.

There are many resources available and below is a list to help you get started, it is important to find the one that suits you best, so be sure to try a few different ones.

Cornell University Pet Loss Support Hotline

Tufts University Pet Loss Support Hotline

ASPCA Pet Loss Hotline

Helpful Books:

Coping with Sorrow on the Loss of Your Pet by Moira Anderson

Goodbye, Friend: Healing Wisdom for Anyone Who Has Ever Lost a Pet by Gary Kowalski

The Grief Recovery Handbook for Pet Loss by Russell Friedman, Cole James and John W. James.

Grieving the Death of a Pet by Betty Carmack

Pawprints in the Stars: A Farewell and Journal for a Beloved Pet by Warren Hanson

Soul Comfort for Cat Lovers: Coping Wisdom for Heart and Soul After the Loss of a Beloved Feline by Liz Eastwood

The Pet Loss Companion by Ken Dolan-Del Vecchio and Nancy Saxton-Lopez

For Every Dog an Angel by Christine Davis

I Never Wanted to Say Goodbye: A Collection of Poems by Arlene Klein

The Loss of a Pet: A Guide to Coping with the Grieving Process When a Pet Dies by Wallace Sife, PhD

Going Home: Finding Peace When Pets Die by Jon Katz

A Final Act of Caring: Ending the life of an animal friend by Mary and Herb Montgomery

For Children:

Death of a Pet by Shirl and J.W. Potter, and George J. Koss

Children and Pet Loss: A Guide for Helping by Marty Tousley

Don’t Say Goodbye, Just Say See You! by Patricia A. Brill, PhD

When a Pet Dies – F. Rogers

Dog Heaven – C. Rylant

Cat Heaven – C. Rylant